Ready Is A Decision, Not A Feeling

How to Take Action Before You're Prepared

What if I told you that waiting to feel ready is just another way of staying stuck? In this episode, I'm sharing what happened when I stopped waiting for confidence and started making decisions anyway—including how I ended up DJing at the Singapore Grand Prix without feeling ready at all.

Why Readiness Is a Decision, Not a Feeling

Here's the truth I've learned: confidence doesn't come before action. It comes after. Two years ago, I started DJing as a new way to connect with people after giving up drinking. I practised in my living room, did a few small gigs, and then did something that felt a bit unhinged—I emailed the Singapore Grand Prix team and asked if I could play at their event. They said yes.

Fast forward to last weekend, and I'm standing on a massive stage at the Paddock Club with thousands of people in front of me, thinking "what am I doing here?" My palms were sweating, my brain was screaming, but I hit play anyway. And here's what shifted: not confidence, but action. By the time I actually felt ready (around the middle of my first track), it didn't matter anymore because I was already doing the thing.

Finding Your Growth Zone Between Comfort and Danger

We often hear about stepping out of your comfort zone, but there's a sweet spot you need to aim for: the growth zone. Your comfort zone is familiar but it's not where transformation happens. The danger zone is too far, too fast—like headlining a festival when you've never DJ'd before. But the growth zone? That's where you're stretching without being completely out of your depth.

The growth zone has fear, but also excitement underneath. There's doubt, but you can imagine yourself doing it. It feels risky but not reckless. That's exactly where the Grand Prix stage sat for me—I had the skills and experience, but what I didn't have was certainty. And that's the whole point.

Three Key Takeaways:

1️⃣ If you don't ask, you don't get. The worst that happens is you get information—either a yes that changes everything, or a no that leaves you exactly where you were before. Not asking? That's guaranteed failure.

2️⃣ Action creates clarity faster than thinking ever will. Stop planning every scenario and take the smallest possible step. Send the email, make the call, book the meeting. Reality is always clearer than the stories we tell ourselves.

3️⃣ Find your growth zone and aim for it. That uncomfortable but not unsafe space between comfort and danger is where all the magic happens. Your future self is already there, waiting for you to make the decision.

So what's the thing you've been waiting to feel ready for? Because you have the skills and capability right now. What you don't have is certainty—and you're never going to have that until you do it anyway.

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